We hear all sorts of statements about how jealous behavior enhances love, keeps marriages intact for life, encourages our man to spoils us with gifts so we may not see other man. We also hear that jealous women would do anything to keep their man from seeing other women. But are these strategic cautions efficient? Not according to this information: One of the definitions of the word jealousy is: fear of losing one to someone else. Many researchers have confirmed that such fear might cause a jealous spouse to become aggressive, possessive, controlling, and even deadly. In addition, Proverbs 6:34 warns us about jealous man, saying: “For Jealousy is the rage of a man. Therefore, he will not spare in the day of vengeance.” The points are jealousy is a deadly tool designs by evilness to destroy relationships; not to preserve them. Whereas, divine unions (Godly marriages) are more likely to maintain intact until death separates us. If we want our marriage to last forever there are three significant things we must do: making sure that our relationship was divinely blessed, avoid Physical attractive marriage, and avoid Wealth-based marriages.
What is a Divinely blessed relationship? – It’s one that was received God’s approval. As the world knows, God has established marriages; and in fact, performed the first one; Adam & Eve (Gen. 2: 23 -25). He did not stop at that only one! For He still doing it when His intervention is requested; and when the two people who requested him are morally fit to be connected by marriage. How God intervenes in marriages? It happens when a wise/God-fearing man is seeking a virtuous/God-fearing woman to become his wife; and when a virtuous/God-fearing woman wants a man that walks in integrity to marry her. Then both – sometimes not even know each other – have decided to take their desires to the Lord in prayer because: first, he has read in the Bible: “A prudent wife is a gift from the Lord our God; and a virtuous woman is a crown to her husband… (Proverbs 19: 14; 12: 4). Second, she has read in Provers 19: 11: “The discretion of a man differs his anger, and it is his glory to pass over a transgression; and whosoever God put together, it shall be forever. Then both have decided to wait faithfully upon the Lord. I assure you that He will make it possible for these two people to meet each other and get marry, because He loves those that trust His judgment; and the types of prayers that they have presented. This now married couple will strive to live by every word of God, since He has answered their prayers. They will trust each other and shall have no need of spoil because the Lord has put them together. Certainly, whenever problems arrive, their relationship will stay strong; and not thwart.
What is a Physical Attractive Marriage? It is association by lust to physical appearance. Physical attraction happens when a man and a woman have seen for the first time and suddenly feel attractive to each other’s body curves or muscular shape; and they’ve decided to get marry as soon as possible by fear of losing each other. This type of decision is usually led to abhorrence and abject. However, with times it might become true love, but there is no certainty. Relationships that was built on outer beauty are usually fall apart as that object of attraction is fading away or satisfy.
What is Wealth-based marriage? -It’s also calls “Marriage for Benefits”. It happens when one of the people who is getting marry is a stranger (corrupts) who is only looking a way to be filled with the other’s wealth harvested from labor. The word of God suggests that man shall avoid being in a relationship with a woman who is after wealth; she seems sweets, loving, and caring; but it’s all about false pretense. Proverbs 5: 3-5 says: “Her lips drop as a honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil. But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword…” Nevertheless, in this twenty-first century we have seen men (which were condemned to work hard) are getting marry for women’s as well; it is a shameful situation. These types of marriages are often reducing a spouse to one shirt. People who marry for benefits are deadly jealous; it is only a strategic approach to protect your wealth against other people so they could have it all.
Although jealousy enhances love, holds marriages, and encourages men and women to spoil one another; at the end it always brought negative impact, such as depression, stress, and death. Most marriage couples are become aggressive and controlling because they felt unsecured, and worthless while watching their relationship falling apart; and they cannot stop it, since it was built on shaky ground. But if we let God controls our decisions, we don’t have to worry when our husband or wife is talking to someone; his not going anywhere. For those that don’t want to rely on God, at least take time to know your partner before getting involve in regretful relationship.
Laura Pelliton/Zeida
© December 2019
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